Marriage is give and take...Especially with a family with challenges....

"Challenge" is a word teachers use to say your child is a pain in the butt.
So when a teacher says she looks forward to having your child in her class because it will be a challenge...It's because your child is going to be her pain in her butt (or his pain in his butt, depending on the teacher).

And sometimes they are a "challenge".

Yes, sometimes they are a festival and sometimes it's one of those days when you look up to God and say, "....There are days Lord...."

Lately Booga has been more challenging than normal, mostly because he's unreasonable with his demands at times. Like, "Don't watch me!" and "Don't help me!"

Well, everyone needs help now and then and it's not about helping him more than normal- it's about just being in the room with him or glancing at him while getting tea out of the fridge....


There are days....
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The Boss of Me!

I've always said that my husband is the General and I am the second in command:
That's the way it's always been. He's first, I'm second. When he is gone I am in charge. When he's here he's in charge. Ultimately the last word is his..., now there have been times I have put my foot down about things I have felt very strongly about but they were important things like, "We need a phone!" and "We have to have insurance!" "Booga has to go see this doctor!"
Generally it wasn't bull stuff like, "What time will we go to dinner!?"

Love and Marriage is a give and take:
Be sure that the things that you want to argue for are important. That this is a thing big enough to say "NO! THIS TIME I'M RIGHT!" And willing to fight about.
Something that you are going to have to be willing to give up is complete control, sometimes, you give and sometimes he gives...

I want to be clear on this:

For marriage to work, sometimes you’re going to have to give up some control.
He needs to be right sometimes and you need to be right sometimes. And it's that balances of things that make this all harmonize.
Marriage is give and take and you aren't going to be right every time.
Look at my husband and I...I love cars....I enjoy them, but they aren't my priority.
It's something I give him.
He gives in to some things that are important to me, like the house. The house is important to me. The house to me is a priority.

Give and Take.
Very important.
How much do you love this person? Are you willing to have them upset because of this?

There are important arguments that go without saying:

We need a phone.
We need a car.
We need a house.
We need glasses.
The children need shoes.
I want to get a dryer because this one stinks.
We need insurance.
THERE'S A TORNADO IN THE FRONT YARD! TIME TO GO TO THE BASEMENT!

You see what I'm saying...
Picking the time to go out to dinner, or time to go home, is not a valid argument to have. Unless something more important like, say, your child's birthday is happening at that particular time...
Then you have to go, "it's not worth fighting about..."
It's an - "Oh well, I guess it's important to him." - Argument. I will give this one to him.

So, realize it's not always going to be YOUR turn to be right. Sometimes it is, but sometimes it's HIS.
GIVE AND TAKE...VERY IMPORTANT IN ANY RELATIONSHIP.
People who don't have it; usually don’t have very good relationships with each other.

We all know people like that now don't we?

Collogus/Columbus...

Happy Collogus

Day

People!!!!!

Or, Columbus Day…

Only in America would we celebrate a man finding real estate!

Here's the back story about the whole Collogus fiasco…

 

 

 

It's a day in which we eat chili and celebrate the loss of our children to collegiate society. We eat the chili, drink the beer and drape the house in garlands of bratwurst.

Buy extravagant gifts of diamond inlay pens and pencils and notebooks with notes of how unacceptable it would be for them to fail in any way- out of college.

We also begin the ritual of turning their bedroom into an office for mom.

 

So to all of you, begin next years Collogus shopping early and be sure to remember everyone who sent you a Collogus day card next year…Because the postal service needs your money.

 

Happy Collogus to all and to all a good night.

My daughter came home exasperated one time because everything was closed and she said, "COLLOGUS! COLLOGUS! What is this COLLOGUS DAY!?!?"
And I said, "You mean Columbus Day?"
And she said, "Oh, OH!!!"
So I call it Collogus Day.
It's funnier.
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Lake Living and Nervous People

You know what gets me about living here? The "fudgies". Which is a term
that we use to describe people who come up only for the tourist or summer season...?
They go and camp at the lake and get lost around it and if you have a garage sale
or are trying to sell something in your yard like a car, you get to meet them.
Fuzzy as they are.

"Boy it must be cool to live up here at the lake." They say.
"It's okay. The taxes stink."
"Yea but it must be like camping all year round."
"Yea, especially when the snow comes up all the way to your butt...It's like
a festival."